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124: A Remarkable Conversation About Love w/Bix Bickson

Love is the thing we all deeply hunger for in our lives. Why are we so attracted, mesmerized, and blinded by love? How can you choose to love without getting caught up in the BS? What is the difference between choosing and deciding? On this episode, Bix Bickson is back to give us some powerful insights on the mystery and miracle that is love.

The world says we give to the people we love, but we actually love those to whom we give. -Bix Bickson

3 Things We Learned

The big lie on the planet is that we’re not connected

The truth is we’re all hungering for the deepest connection we can possibly make with one another, and that’s something that actually unites us.

 

There’s a distinction between deciding and choosing

The word decision creates a context that we do something based on external factors and circumstances. Choice is different; it’s based on doing something from our internal feelings. When we choose, we select freely after consideration.

 

A lot of relationships are based on ‘reasons and stuff’

We calculate the quality of our relationships on ‘reasons and stuff’, but when you’re in a relationship for an extended period of time, those reasons and that stuff disappear quickly. The question is, when that’s no longer there, are you there for love?  

 

We won’t always have feelings of love for our loved ones from moment to moment, but we can choose to experience love by accepting them for who they are, and not get caught up in the little things that annoy us. We can teach ourselves to return to the feeling of love and continue loving that person for who they are and who they are not. This makes us happier, and makes love more rewarding.

Guest Bio

Bix’s work includes executive consultation and coaching, organizational design and development and engaging and aligning people on every level in the organization. Send an email to bix@bixbickson.com for more information or follow him on Twitter https://twitter.com/bickstweet.

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123: An Unpredictable Conversation About Love w/Dushka Zapata

In our world, the unspoken paradigm is that we have a finite amount of love and must allocate it accordingly. How does this negate the best parts of us? How can polyamorous people love more than one person? Can you crush on someone even if you’re in a relationship? On this episode, Dushka Zapata and I have a dialogue on heart multiplicity; a topic we don’t hear enough about.

The very best part of us is the fact that we do not have a limited amount of love. -Dushka Zapata

 

3 Things We Learned

There’s no such thing as weird, and there’s no such thing as normal

There are so many feelings we have that we keep hidden because we think they are weird. If we were less silent about the things we consider weird, we would find that it’s usually a universal condition. We’re not weird: we just express who we are so as to gravitate towards what is looking for us.

There’s a difference between suicide ideation and the contemplation of your mortality

There are two separate things: one is suicidal fantasies or self-sabotaging, but there is something else entirely that is universal. It’s the act of toying with your mortality, and it’s called L'appel du vide or the “call of the void”.

Give permission to your feelings

For some people, having feelings for more than one person is something fleeting and they can’t love more than one romantic partners. Others choose to be polyamorous and share their love. There’s no right or wrong way of doing things. The key is knowing your truth and not being ashamed of your feelings.

 

 

Our hearts have an expansive ability to love, but we’re conditioned to think that our capacity for love is finite. We can love many people, and each love can be its own sovereign universe. We should consider it a privilege to be granted expanding hearts. There’s no need to use our energy in the wrong direction. We can give ourselves permission to have our feelings without fear that it will threaten our relationships.

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122: Six Minutes of Legendary

Insightful, inspirational moments from Legends & Losers.

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121: The Future of Content: Charles Wachter on Hollywood, Silicon Valley & Creating Massively Popular Content

Netflix plans to spend $8 billion in content in 2018. Are apps the future of TV? How are content and branding starting to merge? How do content creators feed the hungry market of consumers? On this episode we are joined by super executive producer Charles Wachter, who shares on the changing landscape of TV and entertainment, navigating the distance between marketing goals and entertainment goals, and being a content creator in the era of Netflix.

 

Twenty to thirty years ago, there were very few who held the keys to entertainment kingdom. -Charles Wachter

3 Things We Learned

Self-marketing shows sell

If you’re at the point where your success markets itself, you have a way to go directly to the consumer, and you’re able to maintain that success-- you’re going to see the upside.

 

There are universal things the audience gravitates toward

To create content that is both good and able to become a hit, you have to be able to make the audience feel something, make them laugh, take them away, or shock them.  

 

Long-running shows have perfected the art of branding and pleasing the audience

Shows like “Law & Order” have been on TV for almost two decades. Even though every trope has been played out, and the plots are predictable, these shows have survived because they will always be a comfort to viewers.

 

Years ago, traditional TV networks were upended by the advent of cable. Now in a similar way, apps and streaming services are upending modern television as we know it, including how deals are brokered and made. Before this era, very few companies controlled the creation and distribution of content. Now there are thousands of content streams, and the power players are the ones who own large sections of that market. This presents a great deal of opportunity for content creators who are able to play in different arenas and access deals that are favorable. Content that markets itself is what sells the most right now.

Guest Bio

Charles is an executive producer and showrunner. He has produced TV series including Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution, American Gladiators, King of the Nerds, Fear Factor and Fashion Star. Charles recently teamed up with global indie studio Propagate Content to launch Hard Twenty, a new production company.

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119: Sebastian Junger on Purpose, Belonging & Being Part of a Tribe

This country doesn’t feel like much of a community right now. How do wealth and affluence play into our lack of connectedness? Why is it dangerous for us to lack tribes in our society? How did we become a self-absorbed nation? On this episode, I have a dialogue with journalist and author, Sebastian Junger about implementing ideas of the tribe in our lives, and connecting for our survival.

3 Things We Learned

 

Lack of connectedness is part of what makes transitioning out of military life so difficult.

Soldiers have to transition from being in a close-knit community to modern society where there are no cohesive units. This creates isolation, which leads to depression, PTSD and loneliness. In countries where military service is mandatory, people experience less of this because everyone else understands the experience.

 

Affluent suburbs are dehumanizing and drive isolation.

Lower income neighborhoods foster more of a familial community than affluent suburbs where people are more likely to keep to themselves. Unfortunately this actually makes us a lot worse and slowly drains us of our humanity. In modern society, wealth and security has made us need each other less but we actually need to be in tribes.

 

People slip into addictive behaviors because they are unhappy.

What’s causing the opioid crisis in America is the fact that people just aren’t happy. People feel lonely, isolated and like they have no meaning. In response, they numb themselves with substances.

 

There is a profound change in one’s life when you go from just being another brick in the wall in a large group of people, to feeling like you’re part of a community. We are wired to thrive within a tribe, and when we don’t have this, it takes away from the quality of our lives and general mental health. The point of life is to be as happy as possible, and that isn’t just about money. It’s also about placing a value on human connection and contributing to society. We have to have a deliberate conversation about this, because ultimately it will make us feel more united, and make the whole world better.

Guest Bio

Sebastian Junger is the #1 New York Times Bestselling author of THE PERFECT STORM, FIRE, A DEATH IN BELMONT, WAR and TRIBE.   As an award-winning journalist, a contributing editor to Vanity Fair and a special correspondent at ABC News, he has covered major international news stories around the world, and has received both a National Magazine Award and a Peabody Award. Junger is also a documentary filmmaker whose debut film "Restrepo", a feature-length documentary (co-directed with Tim Hetherington), was nominated for an Academy Award and won the Grand Jury Prize at Sundance. Go to http://www.sebastianjunger.com/ for more information.

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118: “This Week In Business” #2

 This Week's Topics:

  • The Stupid Bowl
  • Is Facebook A Cigarette?
  • Amazon-A-GO-Go
  • Davos: “What Everyone is Talking About”
  • Flipping For Net Neutrality
  • Proof: Category Potential Drives Market Cap
  • Apple: there goes a trillion
  • A loser Bank brand

 

 

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117: Skinny Pasta: Cooking Up a Category King w/Margot Micallef, Founder of Gabriella’s Kitchen

Modern society has lost its connection to really good food. Why is food at the core of our well-being? How can we turn the tide so we can demand food that is both healthy and tasty? What are the four pillars consumers want in their food? On this episode, entrepreneur, venture capitalist and "one of Canada's Top 100 Most Powerful Women," Gabriella’s Kitchen founder Margot Micallef, talks about dominating the category, living wholeheartedly and why good food matters so much.

As people get to know that it’s possible to have food without compromise, they’ll demand more of it from everyone. -Margot Micallef

3 Things We Learned

Entrepreneurs are people who will work 100 hours for themselves but won’t work 40 hours for somebody else

Margot has worked for a wide range of brands and companies, but nothing is more rewarding than working for herself. In fact, she works best when she works for herself.

Food without compromise is possible

When we want healthy and nutritious food, we feel that we have to compromise on taste and cost. It is possible for us to have food that is nutritious, delicious, affordable and convenient.

We’re in a new age of authenticity

It’s becoming harder and harder for people or brands to BS us, because the consumer is just so much more empowered and vocal about what they want now. The most authentic people will stand out because the market honors and respects them.  

 

Well-being isn’t just about physical health. It’s also about spiritual, emotional and social well-being. Food is weaved in with all of that, and it connects us to other people, our environments and even ourselves. Food is so important to our humanity that it needs to be nutritious, affordable, convenient and delicious. We all deserve food without compromise.

Guest Bio
Margot is the President of Oliver Capital Partners and co-founder of Skinny Pasta, In 2003, Margot co-founded a better-for-you food company with her sister, Gabriella. In 2009, the founders began commercializing their non-traditional pasta, now marketed as skinnypasta™, and confirmed their strategy of developing foods that alleviate symptoms of chronic illness and aging, and aid in health and wellbeing. The company was recently renamed Gabriella’s Kitchen in honour of Margot’s late sister, Gabriella, who remains the inspiration behind the company. Go to https://gkskinnypasta.com/ for more information.

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116: How Brotha James went from Top Performing Salesperson to Motivation Musician

Not a lot of people are aware of the conversations they are having in their head. How does inspirational and motivational music help us positively program our brains? How do we change the way we talk to ourselves? What does the word “abracadabra” mean to brotha James? On this episode, the inspirational performer shares his journey to putting himself out there musically, and why he does this work.

When we use words over and over, we literally integrate and start to become those things we say to ourselves often. -brotha James

 

3 Things We Learned

 

Abracadabra = with these words I create

Abracadabra is used in magic, but we can also use it to demonstrate the power of words and how capable we are of creating wonderful things with them. Whatever we constantly say to ourselves becomes our inner vocabulary. It tells us that words aren’t just things we say. They can build us up or tear us down.

It’s important to be kinder to ourselves.

Consider some of the things we say to ourselves about ourselves. If anybody was to say what you say, you wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with them. They say a good marriage has a ratio of 3 positive things said to 1, we should also hold this standard or higher when it comes to talking to ourselves.  

The words you hear in the five CDs you listen to the most become your vocabulary.

Music has the power to influence us both negatively and positively, and what you listen to the most can have a huge impact on how you see the world and how you speak. That’s why having something that inspires positive action is so powerful.

There’s something undeniably incredible and magical about music. Its lyrics and messages become the mantras of our lives, and the world needs a lot more of that positivity. When you listen to inspirational music, the only real possibility is that you will feel lifted, motivated and ready to take action. In this world filled with anxiety and depression, the power of music can literally change the world. Having access to good beats and positive, inspirational words can reprogram our minds in a powerful way.

 

Guest Bio

brotha James is a solo performer who does live looping: layering sounds through the magic of technology to create a full band effect. He isn’t the only performer out there doing this, but he has taken the technique and made it his own. His positive energy is contagious and his enthusiasm for creating, playing and performing helps him engage audiences of all ages. https://www.brothajames.com/

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115: LIVE from the South Pole w/Robert Swan & Chris Powell

In 1986, English-born polar explorer Robert Swan completed the longest unaided march to the South Pole. Now he's back as part of the world’s first expedition to rely solely on renewable energy, and the first South Pole expedition covered on 360-degree camera. What are some of the biggest challenges that come with trekking in such rough conditions? What can humanity as a whole learn from their experience? On this mind blowing episode, we check in with Robert Swan and Commvault CMO, Chris Powell, 30 miles from the south pole.

 

3 Things We Learned

This is a historical and challenging expedition which will advance humanity forward.

The expedition started on November 15, 2017, and it is a 600-mile, eight-week journey on foot. The team’s members are dragging a 100 pound sled, at heights of 10,000 ft to the South Pole. It is the first South Pole expedition that is 100% powered by renewable energy.

 

Climate change should not be a political issue.

Antarctica is the only place in the world all of us own, and the subject of its shrinkage and destruction is something that should matter to each and every one of us.

 

Renewable energy matters.

We can learn a lot from the use of renewable energy in such challenging and hostile conditions. If Robert and his crew can survive, use technology and communicate with people in other parts of the world, imagine what we can do with renewable energy in our normal, daily lives. It inspires us to realize how much power we have to make the world better.

 

There is so much we can learn from this historic expedition and lessons we can apply to our own lives. It has the power to change how we think about energy, and how we are responding to the force of climate change. The efficient use of resources is smart business, and it’s a smart way to take care of things as a whole. We also learn a lot about how we all need each other to conserve the earth, and how technology will be critical in how me move forward and solve problems globally.  

 

Guest Bio

Robert Swan is an extreme adventure athlete who is the first person to hike to both the north and south pole. He is the founder of 2041.com, an organization dedicated to preserving Antarctica.He is also a United Nations Goodwill Ambassador,a Visiting Professorship of the School of Environment at Leeds University and in 1994 he became Special Envoy to the Director General of UNESCO.Go to 2041.com for more information.

Chris is the CMO of Commvault, a sponsor of this expedition. He’s been a technology executive for over 20 years, with a 15 year run at SAP. He’s an avid athlete, triathlons, running and kayaker.

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