There’s a very thin line between sadness and self-pity. How do stop yourself from wallowing in your defeats and setbacks? How do you learn to laugh more, and stop acting like the world owes you something? What does it take to overcome the need to please people, and the need to chase happiness? On this episode, self-help guru Amy Morin shares on her highly successful article “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do”, and how she overcame personal tragedy to get to where she is today.
There’s a difference between being mentally strong and acting tough. -Amy Morin
- Mentally strong people don’t give people their power by letting them determine their self-worth.
- If you want to feel different, you have to think differently, behave differently or both.
- You don’t have to be happy all the time. If you were, you’d be desensitized to it, and that would ultimately make you unhappy.
At the start of the show, Amy shared her life story and how she overcame the pain of losing three people who were very important to her. She also talked about how writing started as a side-hustle and how her article changed her life. We talked about the importance of not throwing pity parties for yourself and why perspective is so important when things go wrong. Towards the end of the show, we talked about how to get over pleasing people, and learning to be disagree agreeably.
Amy also shared insights on;
- How to be more aware of your feelings
- How to manage your own self-talk
- Actions of the mentally strong
- Why the world doesn’t owe you anything
Fulfillment in life is all about deciding which perspective to take when you’re met with challenges. You can either let them ruin your day, or bounce back from it. It’s necessary to gain consciousness and be more aware of how you feel and acknowledge that to yourself. It’s okay to be sad, but we need to be careful that it doesn’t become exaggerated. Remember when you’re in a situation, how you felt is different from what you thought. Mentally strong people live by their values, even when they go against the grain. If you want something to be fun in life, you have to be willing to laugh at yourself. When you become mentally strong, you can take your power and live the life you want.
Amy Morin is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and a lecturer at Northeastern University. She’s been dubbed the “self-help guru of the moment,” by The Guardian and Forbes refers to her as a “thought leadership star.” Her knowledge of mental strength stems far beyond her professional experience. She’s experienced a series of losses in her personal life that gave
her first-hand insight into the strategies that build resilience. In 2013, her article 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do was read by over 30 million people around the world. Her best-selling book, also called, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, is being translated into 25 languages. Go to http://amymorinlcsw.com/ or follow on social media.