Love is the thing we all deeply hunger for in our lives. Why are we so attracted, mesmerized, and blinded by love? How can you choose to love without getting caught up in the BS? What is the difference between choosing and deciding? On this episode, Bix Bickson is back to give us some powerful insights on the mystery and miracle that is love.
The world says we give to the people we love, but we actually love those to whom we give. -Bix Bickson
3 Things We Learned
The big lie on the planet is that we’re not connected
The truth is we’re all hungering for the deepest connection we can possibly make with one another, and that’s something that actually unites us.
There’s a distinction between deciding and choosing
The word decision creates a context that we do something based on external factors and circumstances. Choice is different; it’s based on doing something from our internal feelings. When we choose, we select freely after consideration.
A lot of relationships are based on ‘reasons and stuff’
We calculate the quality of our relationships on ‘reasons and stuff’, but when you’re in a relationship for an extended period of time, those reasons and that stuff disappear quickly. The question is, when that’s no longer there, are you there for love?
We won’t always have feelings of love for our loved ones from moment to moment, but we can choose to experience love by accepting them for who they are, and not get caught up in the little things that annoy us. We can teach ourselves to return to the feeling of love and continue loving that person for who they are and who they are not. This makes us happier, and makes love more rewarding.
Bix’s work includes executive consultation and coaching, organizational design and development and engaging and aligning people on every level in the organization. Send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org for more information or follow him on Twitter https://twitter.com/bickstweet.